Black Girl to Black Girl,
Monique you should know,
Its comunicated to me, often, there are a lot of opportunities that come up for collabs, in editorial, etc and your name comes up but it is constantly passed on.
Because
• You are mean online,
• You are mean in real life
To people who help you without you even knowing about it* Everybody isn't your enemy.
In today's political climate, everyone has their role, white people can always be doing more without a doubt, and Black people as you know–we constantly have the floor shifting underneath us and the flagpost shifted. Its unfair, its infuriating, its depressing, it also is what it is.
So something to reflect on: What purpose does it serve sub-dissing somebody like me who opened up a mainstream platform to amplify your story?
It ever occurred to you –the weight of what's on my shoulders–to promote a show completely by myself in comparison to these blanquitos online with huge teams?
For context
When I reached out to you, it was on the earlier side of my show and there was a lot I was still trying to figure out. That's 100% on me, valid. The only thing I knew I wanted to make sure of was to include voices like yours. There are a ton of voices that have been featured but not promoted on Socials just because of my individual capacity for example Eva Arreguin, Kisha Gulley, Melaner more than I can think of. And you didn't know that, and don't listen or support the pod so that's understandable.
Pero pa que sepas, its me and just me juggling everything. And I won't apologize for that, to nobody. I may make shit look good online but I am not a corporation, I am one person.
Regardless, your story was in the episode, played on the radio, promoted through email (which helps with streams–which is what helps the podcast–which I know you don't care about as you've told me), and other avenues of promo.
In 2024, I approached you during the rollout of Perreo 101's Podcast and you said to me, and I quote, "Nobody is looking for podcasts, or care about your podcast there's real things going on" and what you fail to understand is that educating peoplehelps combat the real things going on. there's a wave of really stupid people online, who are making the "real things going on" worse. So, saying that to a Queer Black woman... who is trying to combat that is not just unnecessary and cruel, but stupid asfuck to be honest.
It was also cruel because i'll remind you–I had the tour to try to make an income and support the podcast because I was going through a tough time. I communicated that to someone I thought was a friend, and you spit in my face. And In 2025 despite spitting in my face in 2024? I invite you onto my podcast now. Shit, I... really needed to reflect too, Black woman or not, why was I nice to someone who deadass don't fwm?
Recently, my music video dropped, first of two that you're in and you were front and center. I sought you out, flew you out, and put only you in the video* because of how much I respected you and see you for your platforms. That was also promoted in email and industry channels too, positively promoting perreo2thepeople.
Its crazy really, for all of the DJs, promoters, journalists, editors, curators, executives who are hellbent on not giving you a chance here I am, wasting my time, energy, and shit, dignity putting you in a light you can care less about.
Its apparent to me, you don't respect me, at all. And while that sucks, its something I won't ignore ever again–especially as too many of our peers has communicated to me all that you've vocalized outside of my presence.
Monique I hope you reflect on this. A Black woman in more ways than one, over the course of years has done within her capacity to uplift you–and you in more times and ways than one, have kicked her in the face. But never again.
I, unlike you, don't believe in kicking Black women down. So no need for drama online.
But I wouldn't respect myself if I didn't communicate this to you. I've had more than enough.
Cheers,
